It has slowly come to my attention over the past few years that Dads get a bit of a bad rap. Whether it’s the general stereotype, in film, TV ads, or just chit chat amongst others, Dads often seem to be the butt of the joke, usually in the form of a put down. He’s either clumsy, forgets anniversaries, or doesn’t have a clue what to feed the kids when left unattended. Cards contain jokes about them being couch potatoes, they are referred to as ‘babysitting’ when watching their children! What is all that about? They are Fathers, not babysitters!
Well, I think it’s time for this to change for two reasons.
- Because it’s a subtle form of sexism, isn’t it?
- Because my husband is an awesome Dad, and so are many others!
I wonder if there would be more of an outrage if Mothers were made fun of so much. Regularly portrayed in a negative light and stereotyped would surely be seen as sexist wouldn’t it? (I’m well aware this still happens for Mums, maybe just not in the same way. But that’s a whole other blog post waiting!) So I often wonder why it’s ok for Fathers to continue to play the comedy role.
In fact, I think that in this day and age, we are seeing the best days for Dads. Never have Dads been more hands on, clued up and committed to their families. My husband helps to cook, clean, look after the children, will offer me lie ins, plays with the kids, and he always puts us first. The list goes on and on. He is a brilliant Dad, and I couldn’t ask for more.
So why the buffoon like stereotype? I can only imagine it’s because some of society still haven’t moved on from the days where expectant Fathers would wait in a room smoking a cigar, whilst their wives pushed out their latest offspring. Times have changed and so have Dads, and it’s about time the perception of Fathers caught up too!
Of course there are men out there who may be less capable and uninformed, but that’s not because they are Dads, or even men, but because that’s probably just who they are as people. I know so many amazing Fathers, and I wish people (perhaps mainly the media) would stop touting them as half soaked idiots! Let them be celebrated and revered with the rest of us Mums. Thank you Dads, you’re amazing!